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Sexless Caregivers Afterward?
Here's Your Solution
Leah Being
August 29, 2025
Loss of Sexual Identity & Activity During Caregiving
Yes! Research confirms what I experienced—caregiving doesn't just steal your time, it steals your ‘mojo’, that charisma, sex appeal, & energy to pursue it.
But here's what science doesn't tell you; YOU have to snatch it back (no pun OK)!
Caregiving, especially long-term, end-of-life and/or elder care, isn't just emotionally and physically taxing—it can feel like a full erasure of your sexy self.
One of the most little discussed casualty is your sexual identity & activity.
Studies consistently show that women felt socially restricted in pursuing their interests, personal needs and career ambitions, as well as the loss of their sexual identity and social status. The impact is magnified for women 50+.
The person you were before caregiving got buried beneath responsibilities, doctor & medication schedules for another.
And when it's all over, the silence experienced can be deafening. Not only are you left grieving the person you cared for, but you’re also wondering: Where did my sexy self go?
That’s where healing has to be focused & intentional—and where Soca music enters like a warm Caribbean breeze through an open window. Whoosh! Let’s Goooo!
“ Best In A While”
Powder Fling = Joy, Celebration, Unity, Excitement, Shared Delight & Fun!
Today's Powder Fling
News & Views You Can Use
Sex & Health Go Hand in Hand at Every (Mature) Age Science confirms what our bodies already whisper: sexuality boosts wellbeing—no expiration date required. So why do we act like our sensual selves expired with our caregiving duties? Your body is still alive and deserves the mojo!
11 Things About Caregiving Nobody Warns You-Knowing That I’m Not Alone is What has Saved Me Discover how caregiving reshapes a woman’s identity—and why Caregivers Afterward reclaiming your sensual self is more than self-care, it’s survival.
Sexuality and Aging: A Mixed Methods Explorative Study of Older Adult’s Experiences, Attitudes and Support Needs Ignoring sexual health in later life risks leaving mature adults unseen and unsupported. Caregivers Afterward have been on the frontlines and have had to ignore a core part of living fully.
Promoting Sexual Health In Older Adults: Findings from Two Rapid Reviews Caregivers Afterward can break stigma and support healthier, more fulfilling later years. Your maturer self can uphold intimacy as a key piece of your quality of life.
Sexuality and Intimacy In Older Adults Caregivers Afterward, having focused on physical needs of others & now have a chance to champion key overlooked aspects of dignity and connection for themselves.
Wave Your Sexy Back
Women 50+ Sexual Challenges: More Than Physical
Nearly half of women over 50 report low sexual desire, but what if the problem isn't only physical—it's that we've forgotten how to feel alive?
According to a landmark study, women over 50 reported sexual challenges: low desire (43%), difficulty with vaginal lubrication (39%), and inability to climax (34%). These stats tell a story—but they’re not the whole story.
Here’s the truth: for many caregivers, the challenge isn’t just biological. It’s emotional. It’s psychological. It’s cultural. It’s spiritual.
How can you want when you’ve been living in survival mode for years? When no one has looked at you as a woman, a lover, or a sensual being in a very long time—not even yourself?
Soca music, with its infectious riddims, playful lyrics, and celebration of the body, can act as the stimulus—energizing you with the parts of yourself that were placed on hold.
That vibe… that wine, those lyrics —it awakens something primal in us. Something that says, You’re still here. You still deserve joy. You still deserve touch.
Sexuality is Health, Not Luxury
Science proves sexuality is essential for wellbeing at any mature age—so why do we act like our sensual selves expired with our caregiving duties?
Another study reminds us that sexuality contributes to health and wellbeing, but it is often overlooked as an important endeavor for mature adults.
Our intimacy & sexuality isn’t just about sex. It's about aliveness. It's about presence, pleasure, identity, and freedom.
When caregiving ends, there's a blank space where purpose once lived. Reconnecting with your sensual self can be a powerful way to rewrite that story—not to return to who you were before, but to emerge as who you are now: wiser, fuller, resilient, and deserving.
This is your MAS moment—the Music As Solution.
From songwriters, performers, engineers, producers, DJs and more, Soca music doesn’t ask for permission to feel good. It invites you to celebrate your body, your life, your emancipation—on your terms.
Women Carry Heavier Loads & Deserve Deep Healing
Women carry heavier caregiving burdens & lose more of themselves which is exactly why participating in intentional healing practices helps reclaim our highest sensual, vibrant sexy selves.
A 2020 systematic review showed what many of us know firsthand: female caregivers experience significantly more burden compared to male caregivers. The gender gap in caregiving is not just about duties—it’s about the toll it takes on identity, ambition, and intimacy.
For women 50+, Caregivers Afterward life is not just a recovery—it’s a reawakening. But we can’t wait for desire to just "come back."
We must call it forward. Through intention. Through Soca.
Journaling your dreams of intimacy’s return, sensuality and dreaming new ones will help:
We’re never done!
We’re just getting started. And the Soca riddim is right on time.
Your Next Step: Soca Sexy Self-Care
Yes I said it! You were thinking it!
If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, I’ve curated playlists designed plunge you into into the deep end of sexy rediscovery.
No pressure. (Ok maybe a little!)
But all for just pleasure!
Start with the high vibe!
Dance for yourself!
Cry! Laugh!
Yes that’s it!
Wine & Reclaim!
Your sexy didn’t die with your caregiving role.
It was simply waiting for you to come out & play!
Ready to spice things up, ladies? This all-female songstress S.O.C.A. Society playlist is the ultimate antidote for lady Caregivers Afterward needing to reclaim their groove, sass & sexy fire!
These fierce Queens set direction! It’s go time!
Yes, proceed with CAUTION says Warnin’ Dem, Leonce! It’s getting hot in here!
Next wishing only firm fruit for us in the market, we have Banana from Nailah Blackman!
A little sexy wardrobe, attraction & mobility advice from Fay-Ann Lyons with High Heels.
Your choice… may want to hit the gym first or not ( bedroom version available) Pumpin’ Iron, Tizzy.
It’s never too late to take a moment talk ‘bout the Fair Exchange with Patrice Roberts.
Absolutely ready for your alter ego to release Ms. Lucy, Lady Lava say It’s go time! Hello!
For the best nutrients, Cassava, Jadel says chef’s kiss & don’t skip your vitamins here.
Don’t laugh too hard but Kesi says she needs an EMT from the local fire station in Wet Meh!
Follow the playlist & it turns out to be the Best in a While, Nadia Batson… in a long while!
Find something & wave in the kitchen, bathroom or garage—this isn't performance, it's instant mas (music as solution). Ok it can be your own personal & local carnival mas too!
Move until you feel your body loosen up & your spirit lightening whether you use a wheelchair or a walker, you can do this! (Wave, Wave, Wave!)
Weekly Community Celebration Collaborations:
Join our virtual or IRL Soca sessions where you can witness Caregivers Afterward choose themselves. Sometimes healing happens best when we see our reflection in someone else's emancipation. (COMING SOON)
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Transforming yourself from intensive caregiving to a new life chapter requires support, resources, and community. That’s why I’m building The Soar Of Caregivers Afterward Society Community.
We also need a special community of lasting connection with good energy, authenticity and permission to feel joy again.
Our community offers being seen, known, heard & valued. We strive to soar together with mutual investment in one another.Also, tools, coaching, activities & insights to help use rewire, reset & revive.
Because after what we’ve been through, we deserve all the freedom, community high vibes, laughter & fun and so much more. You’ll want to be with us in this community so get on the waitlist when we announce our launch. (COMING SOON)
The next time guilt & shame tries to imprison you, shift your mind to Soca’s legacy of ancestral revolt. Their high vibration is definitely still impacting freedom throughout the universe.
Your joy isn't selfish—it's sacred. Your healing isn't betrayal—it's honoring everyone you've ever cared for by showing them that love doesn't end in suffering.
The Soar Of Caregivers Afterward Society can’t erase the grief or minimize your losses.
Instead, it gives you permission to be gloriously, unapologetically, beautifully human—capable of both profound love and profound joy in the same heartbeat.
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